tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15023065.post5153907761337518507..comments2024-03-27T08:23:33.621-04:00Comments on Go Retro!: Rejoice, Single Ladies: The "Old Maid" Term Is DeadPamhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18122952408610512684noreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15023065.post-983609060477138942015-10-01T14:13:04.548-04:002015-10-01T14:13:04.548-04:00Wow, really liked that last line--thanks for the g...Wow, really liked that last line--thanks for the good response, Pam!ApacheDughttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05520433539816634566noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15023065.post-1663683086841024562015-10-01T13:25:53.998-04:002015-10-01T13:25:53.998-04:00Hi Doug - thanks! I admit I did think of you and o...Hi Doug - thanks! I admit I did think of you and other single men after writing the piece, although I don't think there was much of a stigma towards single men like there was towards women back in the day (however, movies like "Marty" would seem to indicate that there was.) I didn't set out to be single, either, but I'm actually really grateful today that I never got married at 25 and had kids. I've been enjoying this freedom all of this time and have really gotten to know myself in recent years and what I want out of life and a life partner. <br /><br />As far as not searching -- that's actually the right thing to do, in my opinion. You should do things that *you* want to do and that make you feel good and happy...as I've always believed (and know it to be true) that you can meet/attract someone any time and anywhere....couples do meet in unusual ways, not just through online dating sites and singles events. It's all stuff I've read about in my law of attraction books, but it has rang true for a lot of people...and it always happens when people least expect it. It's because they're happy and totally focused on something else, not beating the drum of "I'm single and miserable and where is my partner?" Pamhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18122952408610512684noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15023065.post-39871011445022200932015-10-01T12:55:40.849-04:002015-10-01T12:55:40.849-04:00Great piece Pam--I know this was geared towards si...Great piece Pam--I know this was geared towards single women, but there's a bit of a stigma attached to single guys (like me) as well. I'm 53, never married--and for much of my thirties & forties I'd have cousins, aunts, other relations, coworkers wondering if I was gay, and one time I overheard my mom tell someone "Doug's a onfirmed bachelor" Haha--what?! <br /><br />I didn't set out to remain single, it just happened. I came close a couple times to thinking about marriage (when I was 29, again when I was 41) but it wasn't meant to be & I'm fine with it. I haven't ruled the idea out, but I'm not searching either. One nice thing about my age is, I stopped caring what others think :)ApacheDughttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05520433539816634566noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15023065.post-34152522861503705632015-09-30T11:26:41.750-04:002015-09-30T11:26:41.750-04:00Hi Dar - actually, the divorce rate has been decli...Hi Dar - actually, the divorce rate has been declining in the U.S. since the 70s and 80s and is now the lowest it's ever been. Apparently the 50% stat that often gets cited hasn't been true for a while. Here's just one article that outlines a few stats and the reasons behind it:<br /><br />http://jezebel.com/that-50-percent-divorce-statistic-hasnt-been-true-for-a-1665833364<br /><br />As far as waiting to have kids, my mother had me at the age of 42 and I turned out just fine. :) I was an unexpected addition to the family. They do say the risks go up if you're an older mother but you know what? I believe there are risks today no matter what your age. A perfectly healthy, pregnant 25 year-old can come down with preeclampsia. Pamhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18122952408610512684noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15023065.post-51026442963152378592015-09-30T10:59:09.075-04:002015-09-30T10:59:09.075-04:00Interesting post.
But doesn't the lower divor...Interesting post.<br /><br />But doesn't the lower divorce rates of decades past prove that lower marriage age worked better?<br /><br />Also, if I'm not mistaken but pregnancy health risks do increase the older a women is when she gets pregnant.Darhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01739506304036198805noreply@blogger.com